The battle of the Sides, Mom vs Work

working-momI titled this blog Mom on the Side as a reference to the almost schizophrenic existence that most working mothers have to lead running between the office and home but also to highlight my role with Chelsea, the Mom on the side of the bed, the chair, her life.

Somewhere in the last 8 years the working was lost and the Mom Side became the norm. I became a Mom first and working was fitted in when there was time or space to do so. The Mom Side role took over and the working professional faded into the shadows, and with it the sense of me,  my identity, was lost.

When Chelsea first got sick  my working life stood me in good stead to handle the pressure and challenges of dealing with the tsunami her medical condition wreaked on our life. Her needs and our new normal became a strategic plan to be developed, researched and implemented. I became knowledgeable about medical treatments, drugs and protocols, created new opportunities, marketed, sold  and promoted brand Chelsea on social media, at events, in the press…it was just like going to work just without any of the benefits.

The Work:Mom balance switched from 90:10 to 10:90 and for quite a while I hardly noticed and then as Chelsea ‘s new normal became normal for all of us, I wanted to get my work life back.

So after a long job search the universe realigned and I found my way back to the other side…I have been back working in the corporate sector since March, consulting and stretching my brain with business challenges and adult conversations and then rushing home to do the Mom stuff again.

As a result there has been little or no time for Facebook, blogs or even for her painting and all the Paintability activity has slowed down to the bare minimum of updates or pictures. And so of course I feel horribly guilty and I worry that I have let her down.

And then to compound matters recently Chelsea got sick and our helper left and two failed helpers later we were left with no support.  For 2 months.

It’s like the Mom Side is testing me for daring to go back to work! 

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sorry but App isn’t a verb

Created with Nokia Smart CamPoster seen in an elevator recently which stopped me in my tracks. I rode up and down 5 floors just staring and scowling at it imagining the Good Grief speech bubble inside my head exploding.

I know its my Luddite soul coming out but is it really necessary to eliminate “contact” or “email” or even “use” just because you so desperately want to be trendy and in with the kids while you use the latest fad “applications”.

App means programs or software and to the surprise of many it wasn’t a term invented by Apple.

and it most definitely is not a verb. (yet?)

Love phones and computers but I hate all the “appy” jargon.

App us your comments !!

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the page turned and now it seems anything is possible

All we’ve ever wanted, a simple device that could help her turn the page.

Photo by Janet Taub

Photo:  Janet Taub, Planetphoto.usa        

For the last 6 years, one of the most frequent things Chelsea has said is “Next Page”. Reading is one of the main pleasures in her life and she reads voraciously – the down side for us has been turning the pages, every 30 seconds or less. Often for up to 3 or 4 hours. Whether it’s been a Kindle or an I-Pad, Android tablet or a good old-fashioned book someone has always had to turn the page for her Continue reading

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Lydia Bennet – most irritating character of all time!

Just finished watching the BBC Christmas treat Death Comes to Pemberley, from the Pride and Prejudice sequel  penned by PD James, called a crime against literature by some critics, but once I got over the fact that it was a murder mystery and stopped looking for Gibbs to show up at the crime scene, I actually liked it. Apart from Lydia (played wonderfully by Dr Who alum Jenna Coleman) the irritating character who as always I just wanted to slap.  Continue reading

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Jumping for Joy!

The weekly photo challenge: Joy .  franny jumping

I love that Francesca looks so happy and carefree in this.

Great Boxing Day Walk 2013 at Macritchie Reservoir Singapore

Be the Joy you wish to see… here’s hoping for more Joyful days in 2014

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The sibling stars win all the awards this week

Sometimes it’s the supporting actors that give the best performance and steal the movie from the “star”.

Often in our family we are all bit part actors to Chelsea’s starring role  (see previous) and yet this weekend was once again all about the amazing performance of the sibling stars.

Zachary went up to KL in Malaysia for the IASAS Model United Nations (MUN) Zachary MUN Russian Reunion 2Conference and came back tired but totally inspired and successful having been voted the Best Delegate of his committee (disarmament), Best Dressed and a Best Speaker. He loves the big red countries Continue reading

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Just a normal morning – and then some!

Chelsea broke her wheelchair this morning -  the obvious question is how but the real question is why. Continue reading

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